I hope that you understand what the word 'spiritual' really means. It means to search for--to investigate--the true nature of the mind. There's nothing spiritual outside. My rosary isn't spiritual; my robes aren't spiritual. Spiritual means the mind and spiritual people are those who seek its nature.
-Lama Zopa Rinpoche
I read this quote on Saturday evening at the FPMT Mongolia's Shedrup Ling Center. The center has a small cafe called the Stupa Cafe. I'd heard it was a nice, quiet place, so when I was locked out of my apartment--I'd forgotten my keys when I went to the Internet cafe to post to this blog, and Itgel left while I was gone--I decided to go check it out.
The center offers classes in Buddhist teachings and meditation techniques and is the headquarters for FPMT's Mongolian projects such as English language courses, the Dolma Ling Nunnery and the Dolma Ling Community Center--they have a soup kitchen at this community center at which I'm thinking about volunteering.
After that, I walked around in UB and found Ananda Cafe and Meditation Center. Other Fulbrighters had told me this cafe has a cheap and tasty vegetarian dish each day. The cafe was closed but on their sign I read that they offer yoga classes, meditation classes and vegetarian cooking classes. I thought that was pretty cool, and plan to look into the yoga classes.
Itgel still wasn't home, so I went to fellow Fulbrighter Chris's apartment which is very close, practically across the street, to where I live. He lives with two Australian women, Alice and Julia, who are quite a treat. They had a friend, Pia (I'm totally guessing on the spelling here), visiting from Australia as well. When I arrived they were watching the final scene of Top Gun. When it was over, we chatted and ate dinner--a really great soup prepared by Pia. I called Itgel every half hour or so.
Finally, when I called around 10:45 PM, Itgel was home and sounded as if she'd been sleeping. I tried to communicate to her that I'd forgotten my keys, but I don't think she understood. Around 11:30 PM, Chris walked me home--it's relatively dangerous for Western women to walk around alone at night after 9 PM or so. Itgel greeted me at the door. She looked very strange.
When I got inside, I realized she was drunk. Very drunk. And when I turned around after taking off my shoes, a strange man was in the house. Apparently, this was her nephew, Nansarbat, who'd lived with her before I arrived in Mongolia.
I was immediately uncomfortable and scared. I went into my room right away, but Itgel called to me from the kitchen. I went in to find an empty bottle of vodka and a random smattering of sausage, cheese, bread etc. laid out on the table.
Itgel told me about four times that Nansarbat is Sansarbat's brother. (I'd met Sansarbat the night I arrived in Mongolia. He is a monk at the Gandan Monastery. He lived in London for a year and knows English fairly well.) She said, or at least I guessed this from the words I understood and her hand gestures, "Nansarbat is much more good-looking than Sansarbat, yes?"
Nansarbat returned from the living room with another bottle of vodka and a third shot glass. I told them that I don't drink. Nansarbat said, "Why?," as if I'd said I don't eat food. I was so nervous that I forgot my tactic of accepting and then simply setting down the food/drink that was being offered. I kept saying "угиу," no. I think they tried to convey to me that I just needed to take the glass, but, honestly, I didn't want to hold a shot of vodka in my hand. I felt some self-righteousness creeping in. And some stubborness and my I-don't-have-to-do-anything-I-don't-want-to-do-ness.
In the end I took the glass, held it for about two seconds and then set it down on the table. At this point, all I wanted to do was high tail it out of there as soon as possible. Hence, I went into my room and called Chris to see if he'd come back to my house and pick me up. He said yes. About five minutes later, Chris arrived and I was on my way out the door, despite Itgel's objections.
I was extremely shaken up about this series of events. Mind you, I'd heard alcoholism and drunkenness was a significant problem among Mongolians, but I didn't expect to encounter it in my own living space. I found an interesting post about Mongolia's alcoholism epidemic on another blog about Mongolia. (The site was recently revamped and renamed moninfo.org. It is associated with the News and Information Association of Mongolia, a local NGO "dedicated to providing an independent, thorough and regular source of news and information about Mongolia.") The author notes in his post that this is an issue about which no one in Mongolia is talking. Perhaps I can change that with my work at the UB Post.
When Chris and I got to his house, his roommates had just begun watching Kinsey, a decent film about pioneering sexologist Alfred Kinsey. It proved to be a satisfactory distraction from my distress. However, when it was over I was back to thinking about all that had come to pass. Chris empathized with me and conveyed other Fulbrighters' related experiences. Strangely, what most comforted me was his suggestion that perhaps Mongolia is exactly where I need to be right now, that it's no coincidence I ended up here.
In the end, my desire to remain sober has been strengthened, as has my desire for spitirual growth. After all, how can one investigate "the true nature of the mind" while at the same time sullying the mind?